Why the Dying To Ride
Motorcycle Awareness Group was founded
The Testimony of Dying to Ride
by Teresa Mills Davenport, June 2011
Saturday morning, June 5th, 2010, my husband Rob told
me he was going for a ride on his bike and would be back in a
few hours, and left. I went about my normal business taking care
of Michael, my disabled son, and Bobby, my eleven year old son.
An hour and half later, there was a knock on the door. I opened
it and two policemen were standing there. One of the officers
said, Teresa? I instantly knew what they were going to tell me,
I put my hand up and said, “don’t.” I walked into the kitchen
and one of the police officers followed me in, while the other
stayed in the living room with Michael and Bobby, the officer
went on to inform me that Rob had been killed on his bike, and
that paramedics done everything they could do for him, but they
already knew he was dead.
I told the officer I wanted to go straight to Rob. Bobby asked
if he could come as well as he hadn’t seen his dad that morning.
The officer advised me to let Bobby come along and they took me
and Bobby to the hospital. They asked me to formally identify
Rob. Bobby and I were taken into a small room so I could
identify Rob and spend sometime alone with him. Bobby stood at
one side of the table while I stood at the other side. Bobby
placed a small model motorbike to his dad’s lips and then ran
out of the room sobbing. I saw the officer hug Bobby and say to
him, it’s alright son.
I took hold of Rob’s hand, and while crying I told him I loved
him, kissed his forehead, and left the room feeling sick.
The officer asked me if that was Rob and I replied, “Yes.” I
was then asked to sign papers to formally identify Rob.
While walking out of the hospital holding Bobby’s hand, Bobby,
as he was crying, said to me, “Mam I’m going to make my dad
proud of me.”
I replied, “ you already have, son”
We returned home with the officers and were met by my daughters,
and sons in law…I very soon started to receive numerous phone
calls asking me if what they had heard was true, had Rob really
been killed on his bike? None of the family slept at all that
night, we were all in a state of deep shock.
Bobby, while sobbing, said to me, “ I hope that man realizes how
many hearts he’s broken.
I felt alone, and totally full of shock, and deeply emotionally
hurt so bad I could not think straight. I didn’t know what I
would do. I was in deep despair and really afraid of what the
future would bring and how I would take care of the rest of my
family. I have never felt this alone before.
I never questioned why God let this happen. I never asked myself
if God had left me. I never turned away from God. I was seeking
Him more than I ever have. I talked to Jesus and asked Him to
guide me and tell me what to do now…I told Jesus I felt totally
lost and afraid. I continued to talk to Jesus in this way every
A couple of months later, the idea came to me to create a safety
awareness for motorcyclists on the roads, as I didn’t want
another woman or children to go through the pain and despair we
as a family went through.
I knew God was telling me to go forward and create a safety
awareness program for motorcyclists. I knew what I had to do,
but just didn't know how to get it started. So I called the
President of Rob’s Widows Sons Chapter, and told him what I
wanted to do and asked him to help me set up a page on Facebook.
About a week later, the President came to the house to discuss
my thoughts and what I wanted. He agreed to set the page up,
but I had to have a name for the organization. The President
came up with the name Dying to Ride, and asked if I was happy
with the name. Which I was. He then set up the Facebook page.
Then I started to search Facebook to find my late husband’s
brother Widows Sons. I planned to contact them and explain about
Rob and to ask them to support and join my cause, Dying to Ride.
Dying to Ride started slow, but received a good boost when I
contacted the Founder of the Widows Sons, and he promoted Dying
to Ride on a few of his Masonic communication channels. Dying
to Ride grew from 20 members to more than 800 in two weeks.
Dying to Ride continues to grow today, as Dying to Ride is now
being promoted by several supporters. As I write today, Dying to Ride is seven
Today, June 5th, 2011, is the 1st anniversary of Rob’s death, Bobby
is in the process of having child bereavement counseling to
help him cope with the loss of his dad. Michael, who has severe
learning disabilities, autism and epilepsy, initially showed
signs of grieving as was apparent at his dad’s funeral, when
after the funeral service when Rob” coffin was placed into the
hearse. Michael went to the hearse and placed his forehead on
the window and looked directly at the coffin, with a very sad
solemn look on his face. People standing nearby saw this and
cried. They were saying how much they felt for him, knowing
Michael’s disability and here he is shown his pain for his dad.
Today Michael appears to be getting back to his usual happy
Future Plans For Dying to Ride
I personally plan to provide emotional and practical support to
new widows, using the pain I have experienced to help other widows,
whether they have lost their husbands suddenly and they are in
shock, or whether they have lost their husband due to illness
and have been grieving for a while. The suffering and pain I
have experienced can be an important tool in helping them
overcome the pain and desperation they are living at this time
of grief. They will know I truly understand what they are going
through because I have lived it myself.
Presentations about motorcycle awareness at teen driver
education classes. Dying to Ride feels it is best to create an atmosphere of motorcycle
awareness to those who are learning to drive. I plan to put on
presentations and show motorcycle safety awareness movies that
will have an impact on the learning driver and remain on their
mind. They will know about motorcycle awareness at the time they
Information booths at auto shows and other places where
motorists attend. Dying to Ride plans to print brochures and pamphlets to hand out at auto
shows, boat shows, RV shows and other places where operators of
motor vehicles will attend.
Press Releases about Motorcycle Awareness. Dying to Ride has obtained lists of media sources to contact with Press
Releases about motorcycle awareness.
Please support Dying to Ride by joining and asking your family
and friends to join Dying to Ride. It costs you nothing to save
Dying to Ride can now be
followed on Twitter, (
http://twitter.com/DyingtoRide ), and on Facebook, http://www.causes.com/causes/531538-dying-to-ride
Our website address is http://dyingtoride.org
by Teresa Mills Davenport
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